I’ve been doing a lot of reading lately and have been loving it.
A book that has struck a cord with me is Beyond Chocolate: How to Stop Yo-yo Dieting and Lose Weight for Good and is by a pair of sisters call Sophie and Audrey Boss from London. They got a lot of their information from Geneen Roth books, which I have written about before. I like the principles of these books, but particularly like how it has been presented. It is simple, without being too simplest. It is to the point and encouraging. It has tasks, but they do not say you have to do them, only if you need to. They also point out this book is only a guide based on their experiences and encourage self-discovery.
The book describes a number of principles that will help me to see food in a different way. They are:
- Tune In
- Eat When You Are Hungry
- Eat Whatever You Want
- Put It On A Plate, Sit Down and Focus
- Stop When You Are Satisfied
- Own Your Body
- Support Yourself
- Be Your Own Guru
It is not about following these principles to a tee. Rather it is about fitting them into your life more and more. This is what I want. I don’t want to be on a diet, but I think I need to have guidelines in order to check in on myself. If there are no boundaries I still won’t understand myself and that is not what I want.
I started to tune into myself a while ago when my counsellor suggested setting reminders on my phone. It has helped as I don’t have to remember to do it. I just do it the next time I look at my phone. It makes me think about what I am thinking and how I am feeling. I still have work to do on this one, especially when it comes to eating when I’m not hungry, which I am very good at.
All the others I realise I do in small amounts at odd times, never on a regular basis, except moving! I am trying to think of the best way to introduce these into my life. I think I will focus on one each week and experiment with different ways of doing things for me to find what works. At the end of each week I will review and see if there are things I want to carry on with, otherwise I will move on to the next one and come back to the other one again in the future.
I’m not sure if that sounds too structured? I don’t want to try and do everything at once as I know I’ll give up as it will be too hard to remember everything and then I’ll feel like a failure. I want to focus on each principle and really understand how I work with it.
So for this week I am going to focus on tuning in. Here are some key quotes from the chapter on this:
“It is about turning to yourself for the answers, listening to your body rather than looking to the ‘experts”
“Tuning in is nothing other than going back to basic and gathering information about how you geek physically, how you feel emotionally and what thought are going through your head at any given moment”
By tuning in I will be able to trust myself to know what I need and this links back to the principles listed above. I am going to review the book over the next week and tune into myself more than I do currently. I’ll let you know how this goes next week and then talk about the next principle.
I’m excited and scared. For so long I have had something to blame. Not tracking, not photographing my food, not coating points, not coating calories. Now I want to tune in and learn to trust myself all over again. It is sad to know that I truly do not trust myself. I have been told for so long that not following a plan is wrong. I want to live a life I truly enjoy and I feel this is the next step on understanding and changing my relationship with food – on my own terms!